There are 3 lessons I find myself repeating over and over again with the girls. I was working out in my garage last week when the oldest came home from tae kwon do visibly upset. In tae kwon do, you test for tips and each tip puts you one step closer to your next belt. After a bad sparing session, she went to test for a tip and failed for the second time. When I asked her how it went, I could see the waterworks starting. I immediately told her that it’s ok to fail and the tears start flowing. Failing does not make you a failure.
1) It’s OK to fail as long as you try.
The girls are becoming more and more active in sports. Makayla is moving up in gymnastics and Ava will be on the sparring team in the fall. With this comes the importance of knowing that not everything will come easy and it shouldn’t. They live a life of privilege but the world does not owe them anything. I refuse to raise spoiled brats that expect everything to be handed to them. You will fail. You will fall on your ass but you will get back up because failing does not make you a failure. It’s ok to fail as long as your try.
2) It’s OK to cry just don’t be a crybaby.
For once Ava got the crap kicked out of her and I’m glad it happened because she’s usually on the other end of the spectrum. It’s all fun and games until someone kicks you in the face. No one likes being hit on the side of the head but it builds character and she will come back even stronger. Its ok to cry, just don’t be a crybaby. There are no crybabies in the McKenzie household! Some days you’re the hammer, other days you’re the nail.
3) Everyone in this house works – you are no exception.
The age old saying of work hard, play hard is very true. We work for everything we have and they are certainly no exception. As I type, they just brought down their dirty clothes and started the washing machine. They have chore charts and savings accounts and are expected to be contributing members of this household. Outdoors, they plant plants, rake leaves and move dirt using baby wheelbarrows. Indoors, they make their beds every morning and keep the fur creatures fed and watered. You are never too young for chores. Maddox is next on the chopping block. That diaper genie isn’t going to change itself!
So here’s to another week of success and failure because you can’t have one without the other!